My Engagement -1984
Initially I said to myself " No, I am not going".
But as the date approached, I could not resist my temptation to see her once again.
Those days, there were no Mobiles, WhatsApp or iFace rather we had to depend on STD or post. Instant communication was a remote possibility at that time.
I was working at Bangalore. All at home were planning to go for our engagement to Mallapally on 14th May 1984. Initially I thought I will not Join and informed them accordingly. Later last minute I changed my mind and decided to have a glimpse of her again.Then somehow I managed to get a seat in the bus from Bangalore on 13th night.It was the last bus from Bangalore and my seat was at the back. My father was not aware of my last minute decision. I got into bus in the night and could not sleep till early morning. Around 4 o’clock there was a heavy jerk and loud noise. I was thrown off the seat and I hit against the rod in front of my seat. It was total darkness inside the bus and people started shouting and crying.
I could feel the pain in my thigh and chest where I hit against the rod. Too much of commotion inside and utter confusion on what to do ?. Somehow I got down and I noticed that the bus collided head on with another bus and the bus driver was injured seriously and was unconscious.
Many seated on the right side of the bus were injured. Since it was early in the morning, It took some time for local people to gather.
Immediately I managed to get another bus from there and reached home. Nobody there knew about this and all were surprised by my unplanned arrival.
I did not tell this incident to anyone, but to my father who advised me not to reveal this incident to anybody at that point. He said " This could be taken as a bad omen by even the close relatives”.
"Today when I I look back with so much of gratitude to my father, I understand that, but for his wisdom, I would have missed all that a man deserve to get in his life.
Grandma
and her wisdom
Sheela was mostly brought up by her grand parents as her parents were away in Bagalkot. She had
great trust in grandma and they both enjoyed a special relationship. Grandma was
also brilliant in her own wisdom and given small tips to innocent perplexed girl
before her first experience of seeing a boy. Grandma told her that you keep
watching as he goes back and if he looks back, it is for sure that, he likes you. Sheela narrated this to me later.
As my eyes were searching for her before we stepped out of her home, my
eyes locked at the two glowing big eyes following me through their window.
Poor girl, was anxiously trying to verify the wisdom of her
loving grandma and when I looked back, grandma reassured her, yes, he likes you.
Later those two big eyes became my insight
to the world of wisdom.
Yes, it was true. Those advises of my father and her grandma were
born out of their wisdom from their age and experience. Wise are those who have
wisdom and wisdom sets in when they fear God.
First Question
I did not know the exact depth of
words came from my mouth, when I asked her " Will you be able to
take the journey with me wherever I go? ". she said, Yes. Apart from the literal shifting from
one place to another, she had to move from one house to another and from one place to another throughout the country in
our long journey of 32 years, she had to travel through the different terrains of
our life very patiently. 
Today when I look back, we traveled together through different terrains of life and we thank GoD
for the wisdom of my father and her grandma.
I realise that their wisdom was
not from their education or experience but because they walked straight in the
eyes of GoD, that is the Truth !.